My sister recently separated from her husband of three years and I must say I think it was for the better. Their relationship was very rocky and had many ups and downs. The best thing that came out of their relationship from my point of view is my niece Isabel.
Seeing my sister go through this as well as other couples and being aware that the divorce rate in the US is 50% makes me wonder if love is enough. She tells me that she does love him but she realized that she couldn't be with him. That together they just didn't make sense. She told me it was hard for her to just forget him but that she was going to try because she knew he was no good for her.
So love was not enough for her. And I think sometimes it's not. Since we are children, especially us girls, we are taught that love makes the world go round, that love conquers all and that all you need is love. But that isn't true. You also need commitment, understanding, dedication, devotion, compromise, trust, loyalty, and many other elements to make a marriage work. And some people may argue that if you love someone those things should be there too but I don't believe that.
I think that someone can love you without being able to trust you or to be willing to compromise. That's just the truth. I'm not being a pessimist I'm being a realist.
Happily Ever after doesn't just happen...you have to work for it and keep on working as long as it takes....
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